My name is Matthew and my wife has PCOS. She started a website or blog........I don't know which.......about her PCOS treatment. She had me post on her deal about my perspective. We were both surprised at the response we've gotten. Especially were we surprised to see the feed back my post received. My wife thought I should have my own site to talk more about my experiences with PCOS from a man's point of view. She just set this up for me, threw the laptop in my lap and told me to start typing. So I am. I'm no doctor or expert in PCOS. I do think I'm an expert on being married to my wife, though she may have other thoughts on that. My hope is that by sharing what we've been through, and how we've adapted, we can possibly help others that live with PCOS. At the very least I hope that if anyone reads either one of our blogs they can feel like they are not alone. We've all more than likely been to doctors. Medically, most of us have been given technical information. But anyone that doesn't have PCOS, or isn't living with someone who has it, can't really understand what it all means in the trenches of every day life. My wife tells me I can be a bit of a preachy lecturer......and long winded. So I'd like to say in advance, please forgive me.
Here's a little bit about me in a nutshell. I'm a roofer. I'm rocking on almost twenty years of roofing. We've been married since April 1st, 2000. Yep, April fools day. Jackie, my wife, wasn't properly diagnosed with PCOS until maybe halfway into our marriage. That didn't change the symptoms any but a proper diagnosis is a big relief all the same. I'm sure anyone reading this would agree, knowing there is a real medical condition involved can make a big difference emotionally. It makes PCOS the enemy, not each other. We don't have any children. We do have two very spoiled house cats.
I'm somewhat of a "tough guy". That sounds dumb I know, but I can't think of a better way to put it. I can be willful, at times even pig headed. I've always been a mind over matter type guy, a suck it up butter cup guy. I push myself to unreasonable limits physically, mentally, and emotionally. I don't think of myself as a macho man. More like a throw back to my grandfather's bread, though not as tough. I'm not all that sensitive or emotional. I was 23, almost 24, when we got married. Jackie fell in love with me for all these things, or maybe despite all these things. Either way, once we were married and the symptoms of her PCOS became more and more a part of our relationship, these aspects of my personality made things challenging. We both had to adapt. Marriage is hard enough in the beginning for everyone to adjust to. I believe couples dealing with PCOS have an even greater challenge. Needless to say I had to be more sensitive, more patient, more yielding with my wife that I was with myself. That is still a work in progress. The main thing is we've been in this together from the beginning, and we'll be in this together until we're both old and grey........or she kills me.
So, the purpose of my blog, and her's, is to share what we've learned together. Through many trials and hardships, with successes and failures along the way, my wife and I have been able to have a happy marriage. I am opinionated and have a lot of advice for any couple dealing with PCOS. From practical mundane things to more serious almost philosophical thing. I'm sure my perspective and opinions may not be for everyone, there's no one size fits all manual. If anything I say on this blog offends anyone, I'm sorry. Like I said in the beginning, I only want to share my experiences on the chance that it may prove helpful to anyone going through similar circumstances as myself. If nothing else some people might like knowing there are others out there who can appreciate what they're going through, myself included.
I'll try to be diligent about posting on this site. I'll also do my best to respond to comments promptly. In the end I am only a roofer.....not really a blogging, internet guy.